As Time Goes By

I’ve said it before, but it still holds true… I’m at that age when actors from my childhood and youth are getting older and dying. It’s not unexpected, but still brings a bout of nostalgia, a touch of sadness, and a faint shadow of mortality.
Yesterday Geoffrey Palmer died.
We mostly know him from “As Time Goes By“, with Judi Dench. It’s about an older couple who lost touch when they were younger, and unexpectedly reconnect in later years. Quiet, understated, slow moving, no car chases and gun fights…and hugely funny! We’ve watched it many times, and still laugh every time. The whole family has been watching it with dinner tonight as a tribute 🙂
Geoffrey’s character, Lionel, is grumpy, reticent, and sweet. The love story that unfolds over the years is gentle and romantic, and I enjoy (and understand) it more as I get older ❤
I’ll attach a clip from the show, but you have to watch it all in context to get the full effect.


We’ll watch some more episodes, and raise a custard tart in salute.
Thank you, Mr Palmer, for making us laugh for all these years!

Published in: on November 7, 2020 at 7:07 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Thinking In Black And White

I’ve been reading again…
Our library is closing down soon, in order to open at a new location in early December. I’m stocking up on books to tide me over, and putting some on reserve for when they come in. Usually I read cozy mysteries, but I’m trying to intersperse those with books that are a bit weightier, along a range of topics. These ones were on reserve for a long time (lots of people before me in line!).
Cozies are undemanding, but I need to be learning as well.
Here’s the first book, reserved when the Black Lives Matters protests were starting up in earnest.

It’s a book about how living in a racist society affects what we think and do, even when we don’t realise it, and about the defensive reactions white people can display when unintentionally racist actions or words are pointed out to them. This is written by a white person (who provides racial sensitivity training for organisations in the U.S.) for white people, and as such has had criticisms of presumption and problematic assumptions. It is U.S.-centric, and probably simplifies or glosses over important points…nevertheless, I wanted to read it…because here’s the thing.

I am racist.

No, I’m not about to don a white hood and burn crosses. I don’t use racial slurs or discriminate on the basis of race, that I know of. But that’s the issue – what don’t I know of? I’m not going to get into breast-beating or false guilt here. Just acknowledging that I grew up in a time when there were a lot of unquestioned racial stereotypes, education about indigenous history was practically non-existent (and one-sided), and prejudice was minimised or ignored. There’s no way I could have not been affected. It’s up to me to be aware of what I’m really thinking and saying, and be able to take criticism on board when I come across it. As a beginning I generally find that if something has made me immediately defensive, it’s probably a signal to search deeper to find where that’s coming from…

The other book? That’s got a lot to do with the lack of indigenous history in my school years.

European settlement of Australia was justified by using the argument of “terra nullius“, or saying that the land belonged to no-one, so they were justified in taking it. This point of view has been challenged over the years with varying levels of success, but I would think that the general view of Aboriginal Australia tends to still be along the lines of hunter-gatherers who didn’t settle in one particular place. This book tries to redress the balance, and show that Aboriginal Australia was a place of settlements and various forms of agriculture. There are contemporary settlers’ accounts of settlements of hundreds to over a thousand people in permanent dwellings, with water management systems and storage areas. There are accounts of riding through miles of crop fields. Fish were farmed in rivers, and in some places killer whales worked in tandem with the fishermen to herd fish towards the shore. Some of the areas that are now desert were fertile areas.
All of these things, and more, are noted in colonial diaries and letters, but ingrained prejudice seems to have made them blind to what they were seeing – when confronted with an impressive structure, it seems to have been more likely to have been attributed to some random European passing by sometime in the past than to a flourishing Aboriginal community.
Reading this book was fascinating, but also sad – how much has been lost, and how much can we still save? It seems to me to be worthwhile trying to understand Aboriginal land management and engineering so we can preserve what’s left and even renew what’s almost lost…
Is it ever too late to change?

Reading…
Lots of fun!
…but can also be dangerous to ignorance.
🙂

A song to finish with.
Because it’s never really too late…

Published in: on November 5, 2020 at 4:51 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Good Morning!

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GISHoween!

Another GISH hunt 😀
There’s generally just the one week long hunt mid-year, but with lockdowns and quarantine around the world there have been a few mini-hunts this year. I’m not big on Halloween, but I do enjoy working out how to interpret the items in the hunt.
This one was just over the weekend.
Here are my submissions…

10. Embrace your fears. Literally.

A home made spider, and I only had white materials… a ghost spider?

26. Change a word, horror-ify a film. Change one word of a non-horror movie title to turn it into a horror story, then show the result.

I chose “Emma” (the new version), using both the taglines and a quote that’s on the DVD copy I was using as reference.

38. Make a Sand-witch – A portrait or sculpture of Ruthie Connell, on a sandwich or made of sand. You get to choose.

Ruth Connell plays Rowena on Supernatural.
It’s surprising hard to create natural looking hair with carrot peel.
And that’s a sentence I never thought I’d say…

64. Rainbow Fright.

I was pleased with this one…and then I tried to upload it and found it was supposed to be a video…
I was going to leave it, but I decided to try and make it into a video. 🙂

Time was getting on, so I only managed one more –

74. Linus always waits for the Great Pumpkin. Meanwhile, the Totally Adequate Pumpkin is RIGHT THERE being overlooked. Show us Linus checking out The Great Pumpkin jack-o-lantern while an annoyed Totally Adequate Pumpkin jack-o-lantern looks on, meme-style. (YOU know the meme.) You may use Photoshop or draw this item if you choose, or take photos.

A quick scribble, really, but I was happy to get one more in.
Time to go and read a book now…
Maybe there’ll soon be…GISHmas? 😀

Published in: on November 2, 2020 at 9:39 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Growing Out Of Sight…

My lovely garden is doing fine right now – the rains we’ve had have been just right to keep it alive and flourishing. Even the plants I thought would die (they didn’t seem to have a proper root system) are standing up happily.
The frangipanis by the pool are finally flowering…

…and my zinnias have suddenly burst out with a profusion of flowers.

I kept a close eye on them for a while and nothing much happened, but when I took my eye off them, everything seemed to open at once!

It feels like the same is going on with my boys – sudden leaps in maturity, just as I’m looking in the other direction for a second. 😀
Sweet Bean has been doing external exams this week – only three days, as he’s doing two Year 12 subjects. He went to the huge school up the road from us, where he had to navigate classrooms and large numbers of strangers on his own. It’s the first time he’s had anything to do with mainstream school, and it was hardly a stress-free situation… I am so proud of the way he’s managed so well ❤ He’s very glad to have finished those ones. Next week he’ll be doing his Year 11 exams – still important, but lower pressure.
Biggest Boy is studying at uni at the moment. It’s been a while since he’s done formal schooling, as well! He’s been very conscientious about homework and assignments, and has learned to deal with the issues that crop up with group projects – working with different personalities and levels of commitment. I’ve watched him mature and grow in ability just in these last few months ❤

They’re both so gorgeous! 😀
I love to see my garden flower and thrive, but I love even more seeing my boys launch out into the adult world, forging their own individual paths…

Published in: on October 30, 2020 at 10:02 pm  Leave a Comment  

Peter, Paul Or Mary?

Sunday’s sermon asked which Biblical character we most relate to. It was also asking us not to “do a Peter” – becoming overconfident in our understanding of God and our relationship with Him, then eventually trusting in our own ability to withstand fear and temptation without His help.
Peter was given great insights (You are the Son of the Living God!) and walked on water, but he also denied Christ when it came to the crisis…
In this crisis year it’s a good reminder to stay close to God, especially when it all seems too hard!

I’ve met many people over the years who have identified with Peter. It’s the “ordinary person” part of his personality – the foot often in his mouth, and the big feet galumphing in to situations before thought catches up.
I don’t, particularly, but I’m not sure I identify with any other character in the Bible…
Paul – a bit cranky, loves writing 🙂
or Mary – sitting at the feet of Jesus?

Of course, the Biblical figure we are meant to identify with most is Jesus

In this season when all sorts of things have changed and schedules have disintegrated, it’s good to remember who (and Whose) we are!

As Christmas is galloping closer, and because of the title of this post, here’s a song 🙂

Published in: on October 28, 2020 at 7:25 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Song For The Evening

I had a post planned for tonight, on another topic…
but I think I’ll just share this instead.
🙂

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Pink

So it’s October (already!?) and once again breast cancer awareness month. There are a lot of ads about, and the mobile screening buses are at a couple of shopping centres near here.
Everything’s pink…
I don’t really go for the “buy pink for breast cancer” thing – I don’t trust that all that merchandise is raising money for charity, and if it is, what does that money/charity do with it? Much better to give directly to somewhere that you know is legitimate!
Whether you buy pink stuff or not isn’t really important – what is important is that you go for regular breast screening, especially as you get older. I don’t like getting lots of tests just for the sake of it, but some things need to be done (this includes bowel and prostate checks). Don’t wait until you have symptoms!
Yesterday I went for my mammogram. I hadn’t realised it had been two years since the last one, but they rang me to book me in as their systems showed I was overdue… I understand that it can seem a bit daunting if you’ve never done it before, but the whole process doesn’t take long, and it’s done sympathetically and professionally.
Sat next to a pink-lighted flowering tree while I waited… it cast interesting shadows.


I always try to schedule in a coffee/cake time, and some time shopping or otherwise enjoying myself for afterwards. 🙂 Just a short break makes a difference! I had my coffee and cheesecake at a cafe I don’t frequent much, since the one I generally go to at the big shopping centre here seems to have closed… still was a nice time out, and included my serendipitous heart.

I had to catch my bus fairly soon after, but still had time to pick up some little pots, which I will fill with succulents.

😀

So – all done for another couple of years!

Just to stay with the theme… here’s P!nk.
Let’s get this party started!

Published in: on October 21, 2020 at 2:42 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Blue

Last night we had some lovely rain, and it seems to have cleared out the sky a bit today! It was so blue – that deep, bright, joyous blue.

Everything is bursting out in the gardens here, from the frangipanis near the pool

to the zinnias outside my door!

Look at how delicate the petals are before they spread out 🙂
I thought there’d been a mistake at the shop when the petals first started appearing – they look like they’ll be creamy yellow before they finally open out into a bright pink.
Even my lavender has a tiny little bud (sorry it’s out of focus…)

Blue is a cheerful colour, but it also means feeling “down”, just not quite right in your skin. There are many songs along these lines, and of course there’s the Blues!
Here’s a couple of songs I think of when I think “blue”.

Today I am a happy blue. There’ll be days I’m a small blue thing, sitting in a corner being silent (and curious!).
The world will still keep growing…

Published in: on October 19, 2020 at 5:19 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Open The Windows

This appeared in my messages today…
Life can be hard, can’t it?
Even when it’s wonderful, too.
Sometimes the temptation to give up, just for a bit, overwhelms. Take the time, rest, do the thing you’ve been putting off because there’s no time or you don’t feel you deserve it
And remember that life is big, there’s more to find, and we’re not alone in this big wide universe.

This reminds me of a quote by Martin Luther King
“…the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.”

That’s not to say that we don’t do all we can to promote justice and bring about change, nor did he mean it as such. With everything that has been going on this year, and before, it’s good to remember that God is still in control, and that evil will ultimately not triumph… even though it looks like that’s what’s happening.

“Little children, you can be certain that you belong to God and have conquered them,for the One who is living in you is far greater than the one who is in the world.”
1 John 4:4

It’s not magical thinking, or giving up the responsibility of fighting for good. I’m not going to tell you that everything will go right and nothing bad will ever touch you. I’m just saying that you don’t have to do it all alone, and everything is not on your shoulders.

Open the windows.
Let light in!

Published in: on October 17, 2020 at 1:03 pm  Leave a Comment